This is a lesson I wish I had learned a lot earlier in my life. I am certainly a people pleaser but I have learned over time that I can still please others and be a good person without sacrificing my own needs in the process.
Teaching our #teens how to set boundaries with regard to their time, commitments to others and most importantly who they allow into their lives can be one of the most important lessons you can teach them.
There is so much negative energy wasted when they sacrifice their needs all the time to allow others needs to be served who don’t treat them the way they deserve to be treated. What about when they need to do something and allow guilt to creep in and they instead give up on what they need to help someone else, when they could still help but just maybe not in that moment.
Learning to set #boundaries actually allows them to serve others even more powerfully. When they are able to serve others from a place of authenticity vs a place of guilt or need to please to fit in, the impact they will make is greater and will be felt by the person they are serving in the moment.
Boundaries tell others what is acceptable and what is not. When they set them, they attract those who are willing to respect them which means they respect you as a person and are someone you want in your tribe.